“I am a friend of Jesus Christ.” John 15:15
“I am the light of the world.” Matthew 5:14
“I am one spirit with the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 6:17
“I am complete, lacking nothing, in Him.” Colossians 2:10
“I am chosen and I produce lasting fruit.” John 15:16
Have you ever really stopped and thought about who God says you are? I believe if we ever truly grasped who we actually are in Christ, then it would become extremely difficult to take offense at any real or imagined affront.
Where I once was feeling rejected and angry, I now feel sorry for the person who consciously or subconsciously tries to assign value to me or others.
I heard a quote recently that has been said in various forms as long as I can remember, “No one can take away what they never gave you” (Todd White). Your identity is in Christ and no one else. If you know who you are in Christ no one can take away your peace, security, worth, etc. We all know that, but I love this quote because it is defensive (comforting) but also offensive (someone’s sin against you does not have to cause sin in you). You can stop in that moment you start to feel angry or rejected, and pray for them instead because you can have the perspective of “Uhh…that is unfortunate that you actually think the value you assign me/someone else is actually worth something.”
Realizing where my identity really comes from has shifted my perspective of people so much. Where I once was feeling rejected and angry, I now feel sorry for the person who consciously or subconsciously tries to assign value to me or others. Their attempt to allocate my worth comes from a place of lack in them not who I am in Christ. Which leads to it being so much easier to pray for them.
Then, after you pray for them and realign WHO really defines your worth, you have taken your power and freedom back and reminded yourself that your identity never belonged to them in the first place. Loving others becomes easier and easier because it no longer matters if they love you or hate you. You do not need them to validate you. You are just simply free to know WHOSE you are and what He thinks about you and then operate out of that love. Other people are no longer bound to your need of them to validate you and they are simply free to be God’s child. You are free and they are free.
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May your path be lit.
Heather has a B.S. in Psychology and is a certified Life Coach. She enjoys spending borderline unhealthy amounts of time with her husband and daughter, pondering God’s mysteries, movies, travel and may have a debilitating addiction to books and hot baths.